Writing Accountability (without the shame)

How do I do what I say I’m going to do? Without:

• beating myself up for missing a goal

• comparing myself to other people who seem to be “on track”

• quitting… again

​Accountability without shame is not just a “nice” thing or a way to love ourselves–though it is those things. It’s also a way to make it easier to succeed. Because the quickest way for me to decide to quit on a goal is to set an unrealistic expectation and then beat myself up when I don’t meet it.

Unrealistic expectations, for me, are either:

1. going from never doing something (say, writing) to vowing to do it every day, or

2. going from doing something every day (like, say, drinking coffee) to saying I’ll not drink it all.

​It is so very easy to fail at a goal like this. So, what is the alternative?

Writing accountability without shame. Setting reasonable goals. Maybe sometimes not meeting them! And then, when we don’t meet them, adjusting them to make them even easier to meet.

Accountability without shame is our practice in Time to Write. In fact, one of the main reasons I started Time to Write is to foster accountability without shame in myself, and in you, too.

What is Time to Write?

Time to Write is a free, weekly writing accountability group.

I want you to come because you’ll get one hour per week of focused writing time, but also because I will, too!

Time to Write happens every Wednesday on Zoom, but you don’t need to join the Zoom every week. Set a sustainable schedule for yourself. If you do, you will be amazed at what we can produce when we agree, together, that we will focus and be present with our writing in the same (virtual) room for one hour.

We will all get so much more done than any of us can do on our own.

If you’re nodding along, or even if you’re skeptical but curious

​Click this link to join Time to Write.​

Time to Write is and will always be free,

as long as you stay subscribed to my email list. Time to Write is a space for you and me to get writing done, every week.

Come with a work in progress, or come with no idea of what to write about! (Each week I will provide an optional writing prompt that you can use to get yourself started.)

When you sign up for free writing accountability, you will receive a follow-up email with the Zoom info.

​Join here.​

Three Things that Will Get You Unstuck If You're Staring at a Blank Page Right Now

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Writing for your business can feel daunting, even if you've been doing it for a while. These are my tips for getting started.  

1. Make a swipe file. Are you already doing this? I can't think of a writer who wouldn't (or doesn't!) benefit from looking for inspiration. Keeping a swipe file for the different types of writing you do is a great way to cut down on wasting time perusing the internet every time you need to write something. It's a great way for keeping you from falling down the black hole of Twitter/Facebook, too. 

Here are some swipe files to get you started (or Google them if you don't see one you like on the list!) 

• Headline swipe file

• Opening line

• Facebook ad

• Blog post

• About page

2. Write down every good question. This tip is for bloggers. This is the best way I've found for avoiding that feeling of not knowing exactly what to write about. Either you can't think of anything, or you can't narrow down your topic. 

If you're committed to writing once a week or more, the only way you can stay consistent is if you create a long list of topics in advance. 

So, where do you get these topics? From your conversations with clients and colleagues. Every time they say something that sparks a discussion between you two, every time you give the same very good answer to a question you've answered 8 million times before, every time you tweet about a small moment or experience related to your workday, write down the topic and a brief description. 

3. Start in the middle. Full disclosure, this is the first full sentence of the blog that I actually wrote; this sentence right here.  

I didn't exactly start here. I started by outlining the blog--I know I'm going to write about writing down every good question and about keeping a swipe file (which you already read about, but which I haven't written yet.) The reason I haven't written those sections yet: after I outlined them I got worried and stopped writing. 

I started wondering, "Will anyone care about what I have to say about this topic?" "Do the people reading my blog really care about this topic?" "This is not going to be that good--why am I bothering?"  

I have had this issue my whole writing life. It hasn't mattered what I was writing. It's worse when you're hoping that people will read what you're writing (as opposed to hoping they won't read it, which is a state more common among writers than you might think).

When I start at the beginning, I have this kind of Pavlovian reaction of  paralyzing fear that it won't be good enough for anyone to read. And I have to stop.  

So, I started skipping to the middle. 

I write as though I've already gotten the hard part out of the way and I just have to get this darn thing finished. This mental trick (if you want to call it that) allows my fingers to loosen up--literally--as I start typing out the meat of a single idea.  

I guess starting in the middle is a kind of swipe file. Getting a meaty idea fully formed on the page means you're not staring at a blank page anymore. You just need to go back in and connect the ideas. 

Ok back to the top.